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Jun072012
No, I Wont Meet You For Coffee!
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Thursday, June 7, 2012 at 7:39PM
Thursday, June 7, 2012 at 7:39PM I got this message today from someone that should be very happy I have chosen not to share his name. It is not the first time he has contacted me or one of my friends. I hope girls realize how dangerous it would be for them to meet up with someone like this. In this face eating world, you never know who to trust but I guarantee you its not the guy offering you money to meet him for coffee.
Reader Comments (4)
YGADS! This is obviously seriously phony... I live in the Los Angeles area, have attended events at the Mansion and am socially acquainted with several models. I would never, EVER be so gauche as to offer a model compensation to "meet for coffee", "hang out", or whatever. The only time $ is an appropriate topic of conversation is if you are contemplating hiring the model to do printwork, promo work for your company, etc. Even then, such conversation should be directed toward her agency, NOT THE MODEL! Only a rube or a creep would put forth something so socially maladroit as this posting. It would be funny to arrange a "date" with Dr. Creepo and then have @Ryansmashing show up to teach this miscreant some manners! LOL!!
He is most likely lieing about everything, and I believe he is only trying to sweet talk you and very much intends to have more then a cup of coffee with you. He most likely intends to have sex with you, and most likely wouldn't take no for an answer. Tell him to not contact you anymore or that you will report him to the police. That might be enough to scare him off. Odds are posting his name would be pointless anyways, as he is most likely not using his real name anyways...
What a prick! It's reasonably certain he's no Robert Redford, nor does his 'indecent proposal' seem honest or sincere. The oxymoronic 'respectful offers' are anything but respectful. No wonder everyone hates going to the doctor, haha. Seems like there are few that aren't overly ambitious, greedy control freaks, who never had interest in healing the sick, just enrolled in medical school for money and status.
I believe a price should never be placed on your beauty and powers of attraction. I believe in just falling in love and romance and yes, destiny.
take care Kassie
Kassie,
As a keen observer of how men think, here's my analysis:
This man most certainly is a medical doctor in his 40's. He was a late bloomer, didn't date much in high school. Got married in his 20's when he really wasn't ready. Had a few kids, wife grew distant, marriage disintegrated. Now as a divorcé with a solid income, respectable career, in his 40's, aging well, reasonably charming and witty, he's found that getting a date is really easy. He sees the "cool" guys he envied in high school are now overweight balding ex-athletes with mundane jobs, and has found that many women, especially younger women, are easily impressed with money that only puts a little dent in his expendable cash budget, despite paying alimony and child support. He can get laid easily by finding a lonely, aimless, plain-looking 20-something who thinks she's an artist, living in a studio apartment in Venice, earning her rent through odd jobs, by taking her to a nice restaurant, buying her jewelry and pot, and even "loaning" her money for rent, which he knows he'll never get back.
But he's unfilfilled by this. He realizes now that many incredibly attractive women harbor deep insecurity (present company excluded, of course!). Finding just the right combination of his increased desirability from maturity and status with such insecurity in an otherwise unattainable model would fulfill his adolescent fantasy and boost his ego. His strategy is to attain "real" one-on-one interaction with a model with this hope. Sure, he could pay for a webcam or escort service, but that's not real. It would just be too ostensibly a business transaction. But he still sees his cash as a major and necessary factor for success. So he decides to offer money for a casual meeting.
He drafts the above missive. He claims he's a "huge fan" and both implies and explicitly says that he's respectable, and a "good guy," keeping it innocent with the classic "meet for coffee" ruse (brief, too!) with no expectations, while dropping a few too many references to money even after plainly offering cash for your company. He browses dozens, scores, or even hundreds of Los Angeles-based models' websites, and sends off his form letter, taking care to change the "Hi [name]" line each time. Given that he sends follow-ups to women he doesn't hear back from, there's a good chance he even tracks it all on a spreadsheet.
And just like spammers and Nigerian scammers, he achieves success through volume. If just one of a hundred of his targets agrees to meet him for coffee for a few thousands dollars, he gets quite the thrill.
I'll bet he really does have no expectations that his initial cash-for-coffee meeting would include a sexual encounter, and that he really is quite harmless. But what he imagines is that, by shelling out cash to meet multiple models, while trying not to seem skeevy, he at least gets his foot in the door, a huge step ahead of his peers. And, of course, he hopes there will eventually be a connection with one that "clicks" and, down the road, leads to continued communicaton, a relationship, or at least one sexual encounter.
I agree with your response to him. Very well put. But you know what would have been better? Just block him without responding. I'm sure that even getting a negative response from you aroused him more than simply hearing nothing from you. It's difficult, I know, not to tell him off, but he just needs to be ignored.